‘No, I can’t – I’ve tried before’.
How many times have you heard yourself or someone close to you say it? Why not? What is standing in your way that keeps you from being more of you than you’ve ever dreamed possible?
Is it you, my friend? People can create their lives through choices they make. You can call it a bad habit, but still … you are the one choosing it.
So HOW can I keep my New Year’s resolution?
That’s an acronym coined in the journal Management Review in 1981 for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time-bound.
So your New Year’s resolution should:
be absolutely clear and specific
be possible to track (progress check)
be realistic — actually be within your reach
really matter to you
be given enough time to be achieved
According to Judson Brewer’s TED talk, our bad habits are formed on the basis of a primary brain learning process called:
positive and negative reinforcement
And it goes like this:
Trigger—> Behaviour —> Reward
See chocolate —> Eat chocolate—> Feel good
… and can only be broken by using curiosity.
And curiosity is really looking at new possibilities for you.
You can watch this TED Talk here to discover the science behind habits: